Have you ever been in a situation where the vibe is just off – Mainly a hiccup in communication between you and someone you generally have a uniformed flow with? Misunderstandings or unresolved issues are often to blame for this.
I know for myself, when discord begins to rear its ugly head in specific relationships, I feel a strong urge to bring up the issue with the other party, but quickly talk myself out of it. Why?… Fear, plain and simple.
Indirect, dramatic outbursts were a pretty common theme used by me in my relationships back in the day (both romantic and platonic). Due to this toxic behavior of past, I sometimes get uneasy bringing up current issues or concerns with others, out of fear of coming across as too emotional, in turn, being written off before being fully heard out. There is also the fear of causing more harm than good by even bringing the issue up. So, I just wait for the off feeling/vibe to pass, and it does, until the unresolved issue arises again…
Well, I want off of that crazy cycle of fear, so I am beginning to take the necessary steps to achieve that. I am practicing wisdom by seeking guidance from the Lord on which issues to bring up, and which to let go of and lay at His feet in prayer. While doing this I am realizing, and accepting that I can truly only control myself and my emotions, and not the possible responses I may receive from others.
This is some work, and definitely takes practice, but I am going to keep trying 🙂
When the vibe is off, I aim to release the fear of how I may be perceived, and take the steps to get it right.
Staying encouraged – I hope the same for you!